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Random parenting tidbit: I have two kids, and they had tantrums. When it was spiraling I took them outside. I have found the sound of nature calms them, weirdly
by vvoyer 3y ago
Random parenting tidbit: I have two kids, and they had tantrums. When it was spiraling I took them outside. I have found the sound of nature calms them, weirdly. The change of setup maybe helps.
- nostrademons 3y agoThis is sorta the logic behind time outs, which literally are supposed to be "time. out." Remove them from the setting where they're misbehaving, into an area where they can have big feelings safely but aren't exposed to stimuli which might intensify the tantrum. Eventually the feeling goes away because there's nothing to feed it. My kids have long memories, unfortunately.
- hutzlibu 3y agoOh yes, I live directly next to a wild river valley, so just opening the window and hold them next to it would have (literally) cooled them. The wind, the sound of the water, the cool breeze. And if this was not enough, carrying them with a manduca on the back or front and walking outside was always working. Also sometimes in the middle of the night, giving the mother a rest. Now that they are bit older (and heavier) I only do this rarely. The trick is to have been outside enough with them in the first place. And if their head gets hot - literally cooling them with some water on the head helps very much.
- waynesonfire 3y agoSame. The rocking chair on the porch saved us countless number of times. The sounds of the neighborhood, the bicycles, cars,the wind, the lights of airplanes, learning about the neighbors brought her comfort and allowed her to fall asleep. Great tip
- itsboring 3y agoTwo kids having some kind of competitive tantrum is so much more difficult than just one kid having a tantrum. They set each other off over and over in some kind of fucking feedback loop from hell. Sometimes the only strategy that works is to get them separated ASAP any way you can, which can be really hard if there’s only one grown-up home at the time and the kids’ bedrooms share a wall….
- ninkendo 3y agoTwo kids is just so much harder than one, it’s ridiculous. Like easily 10 times harder than just one kid. I have two boys aged 2.5 and 8mo, and I’m starting to wonder how any parent of two stays sane. Three or more must just be impossible. Can’t be done. My mother (3 of us under 4 years old) must have been some kind of super hero. Anyone who has been through this, does it ever get easier?
- earthboundkid 3y agoThose are the tough years, yes. Hold on. When they're 3 and 5, it will be easier to get them to go in the same direction. Especially when everyone is potty trained.
- GiorgioG 3y agoIt doesn't get easier. It just gets different. And then you become your parents' parents as they get old. Just get through it one day at a time.
- itsboring 3y agoI know what you mean. I’ve got two girls, 5 and 6, who love to fight over the pettiest shit. Like, when they’re in the car, one will yell “she’s looking out MY window!” “NO I’M NOT” “YES YOU ARE” etc. The good news is that at their age right now I’ve been noticing more and more moments where they’re nice to each other, help each other out, etc. Still plenty of rivalry, but it seems to be on the decline in the past six months or so.
- knicholes 3y agoI'm the youngest of seven kids. The older kids raise the younger kids.
- koolba 3y agoPeople with small families simply don’t understand the economies of scale and free labor pool that comes with raising a soccer team.
- kazinator 3y agoYeah, except outside is where you want them to get all the screaming and horseplay out of their systems.