I’m pretty sure they were using the term to refer to the concept of paternalism: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternalism https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pat

I’m pretty sure they were using the term to refer to the concept of paternalism: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternalism https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternalism not as a gendered term targeted at you.