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I occasionally ponder on how frustrating it is that the deceased don't get to hear their eulogies. It would have been amazing for Bram to have been able to expe
by topher200 3y ago
I occasionally ponder on how frustrating it is that the deceased don't get to hear their eulogies. It would have been amazing for Bram to have been able to experience all the outpouring of support and love from people he is interacted with during his life. Especially in a context where the speakers aren't considering him as an audience -- they're sharing their deep and true feelings.
No one can really be sure how their acquaintances feel about them. Eulogies are the closest we get. Imagine if he were able to hear all these great things said about him... It would be such a joy.
- jfax 3y agoThat's what birthdays are for. I like to think, anyway.
- beachy 3y agoOff topic but your comment makes me think of Nick Drake. He died at 26, before even knowing he'd achieved anything, his music barely listened to, probably feeling a failure. Posthumously he's one of the world's most acclaimed recording artists. RIP Bram.
- block_dagger 3y agoGood example, although Van Gogh is probably the more cited.
- mongol 3y agoAnother example is Stieg Larsson, author of the Girl with the dragon tattoo triology. He died before these books were published.
- flylikeabanana 3y agoAlso John Kennedy Toole, his novel The Confederacy of Dunces was published by his mother after his suicide and it ended up winning the Pulitzer.
- halifaxbeard 3y ago“The Doctor and Amy take Vincent Van Gogh - who struggled to sell a single painting in his own lifetime - to a Paris art Gallery in the year 2010” https://youtu.be/ubTJI_UphPk https://youtu.be/ubTJI_UphPk
- jamiek88 3y agoI remember the emotional impact of that scene hit me hard when I first saw it. It still hits 89% as hard now upon many repeat viewings.
- slushh 3y agoAt least in one of the Van Gogh movies, he says something like 'one day, people will understand'. To me, that suggests that he knew the value of his work whereas OP suggests that Nick Drake didn't know that he created something that people will value.
- reuben364 3y agoAn example from South Africa: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Searching_for_Sugar_Man https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Searching_for_Sugar_Man
- bmiller2 3y agoLarry David had the same thought, and it was the theme of the episode "The Covid Hoarder" in Curb Your Enthusiasm wherein Albert Brooks stages a funeral for his non-deceased self.
- dmvdoug 3y agoThis is why I always make it a point to tell people how much I appreciate them and why (when I do, I mean). It can be awkward at first, but I’ve developed a good self-deprecation that lets me excuse myself for being gushy (“I might start crying; I’m a crier!”), and that disarms people for the most part. I think it’s really important that we let people know how much we value them and why we honor/respect them when we do. Because most of us do wander through life in a cloud of unknowing and uncertainty.
- dtgriscom 3y agoCue "Waking Ned Divine" reference: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXe_kRQdHfU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXe_kRQdHfU