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Sounds like you really like your family
by nick123567 4y ago
Sounds like you really like your family
- feoren 4y agoSounds like you haven't had children. It's pretty universal. It's incredibly draining literally every minute that they're awake. You have no time nor mental power left at the end of the day. For years.
- konart 4y agoI think it's very indivildual. My daughter is 9 months old now and only first 1-2 months were pretty draining. But then you just get used to it. Note that I'm working from home (for 4 years now). So it's not like I was rushing to an office asap every day. This may be different if you have more that one kid or a different family situation of course.
- dorkwood 4y agoMight things change when she starts walking?
- csunbird 4y agoExactly my thought. A well-sleeping kid who stays where you put them is not that much work for now. But when they start being mobile and explore the world on their own, you will need to keep an eye on them forever.
- konart 4y agoWell, fortunatelly or not: things always change. Not to mention we are planning more kids. But still: everything is individual.
- reitanqild 4y agoMy first was daughter was very quiet and I thought I somehow had got something right on first try. The next four of my kids has not been even though they share both parents. I think I should be happy for this: If they'd all been as harmonic as my first one I could easily ended up giving well meant parenting advice telling others "just do as I did, be kind and careful and encouraging and it will sort itself out".
- subpixel 4y agoNo judgement here - I’m a parent who continues to make mistakes. But it doesn’t matter if you’re building software or raising a family - it doesn’t have to be draining. In fact your best work will never show up when it is.
- e1g 4y agoWe have two kids under 4, and among our friends, what amazes me is how different children are - and, therefore, the parenthood experience can be. One of my girls is the sweetest, calmest, most peaceful bundle of hugs. The other is a low-sleep, hyper-energetic, demanding chatterbox. She is unyielding and relentless from 5am, every day, and raising her is draining. I don’t mean “resentful” - we chose this experience and chose not to outsource them to childcare. But some kids are absolutely more work: if your every day is packed 5am-7pm with sales, negotiating, customer service, and all-team workshops, if you get little sleep and no weekends or half-days, year after year, you will be tired. I bootstrapped a software business to 7 figures ARR solo, and raising her is more draining. And more rewarding.
- civilized 4y agoI never cease to be amazed at how many people aren't aware that there are difficult children to raise. They seem to think that how you feel about life is determined entirely by how well you Jedi mind trick your attitude into always being positive. Life is hard for some people! Sorry you have to hear about it in public, but if it's that annoying for you to just hear it, imagine living it!
- reitanqild 4y agoI know I was like that second child you mention. Whenever I feel sorry for myself it helps to think about my dad who had to live with me as his first child (and I have more siblings that children : )
- subpixel 4y ago> some kids are absolutely more work no argument on that point!
- nick123567 4y agoI have two kids