You clearly value different things to them, and that's okay. To you, a big car or house may be a sign of success. To them, it might not be. Not everyone values

You clearly value different things to them, and that's okay. To you, a big car or house may be a sign of success. To them, it might not be. Not everyone values material things the same. It's clearly a considered decision. It's not stupid by any means, if this is what they want.