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Really sad post. The whole point of not using social media is to push you to actually meet people in real life. Form real connections instead of reading single

Really sad post. The whole point of not using social media is to push you to actually meet people in real life. Form real connections instead of reading single sentence comments. This guy is too scared to even make a new profile because he would have to send new friend requests to all of his "friends".

technothrasher 4y ago
> The whole point of not using social media is to push you to actually meet people in real life. While that can be a reason, it's not "the whole point". I backed way off on social media a few years ago simply because I found it toxic. I didn't have trouble before that meeting people in real life, nor did it particularly change my behavior in that regard when I left most of the social media behind.
haswell 4y ago
I’m not sure if fear is the driver here, or something else. I think it might depend on how they went about leaving. I’ve had friends leave social media in a very holier-than-thou manner. Coming back for them wouldn’t just involve re-adding friends, but eating a lot of crow in the process. But setting that aside, I do find the post a bit sad. I think it points to the fact that even while social media is making us depressed, the world changed so much with its introduction that it can be difficult to operate without it depending on your personality type, the nature of your current support system, and friend group. And if you suffer from social anxiety on top of that, things are only worse. I don’t actively use social media, don’t have the apps installed, don’t have active browser sessions, and use Firefox Facebook container, but I didn’t delete my accounts either.
CTDOCodebases 4y ago
The thing is they went further than not using it and they torched their accounts. It's like when you bump into someone you know who you used to call on the phone and they ask you for your number. It's a little jarring knowing they consciously took actions to sever ties. This alone basically ensures that any preexisting bonds will most likely not ever be the same. I deleted my accounts and felt similarly. There was a positive aspect to it but sometimes I try to find photos from certain period in my life but realise they were on a deleted account. Or I understand something someone once said to me and I want to reach out and tell them that I finally understood what they meant but I have no means of contacting them. Its so easy to see the bad that social media has caused but if you have lived pre-internet you know the feeling of mistakenly loosing people forever. Maybe the risk of that enriched the experiences at the time though. It's so long ago now it's hard to remember.
- P_I_Staker 4y ago
  Sounds like they just lost your number from their address book, lol. I've had this happen countless times.
SketchySeaBeast 4y ago
I'm surprised by the number of people here who apparently don't have friends who they are physically far away from.

technothrasher 4y ago

> The whole point of not using social media is to push you to actually meet people in real life. While that can be a reason, it's not "the whole point". I backed way off on social media a few years ago simply because I found it toxic. I didn't have trouble before that meeting people in real life, nor did it particularly change my behavior in that regard when I left most of the social media behind.

haswell 4y ago

I’m not sure if fear is the driver here, or something else. I think it might depend on how they went about leaving. I’ve had friends leave social media in a very holier-than-thou manner. Coming back for them wouldn’t just involve re-adding friends, but eating a lot of crow in the process. But setting that aside, I do find the post a bit sad. I think it points to the fact that even while social media is making us depressed, the world changed so much with its introduction that it can be difficult to operate without it depending on your personality type, the nature of your current support system, and friend group. And if you suffer from social anxiety on top of that, things are only worse. I don’t actively use social media, don’t have the apps installed, don’t have active browser sessions, and use Firefox Facebook container, but I didn’t delete my accounts either.

CTDOCodebases 4y ago

The thing is they went further than not using it and they torched their accounts. It's like when you bump into someone you know who you used to call on the phone and they ask you for your number. It's a little jarring knowing they consciously took actions to sever ties. This alone basically ensures that any preexisting bonds will most likely not ever be the same. I deleted my accounts and felt similarly. There was a positive aspect to it but sometimes I try to find photos from certain period in my life but realise they were on a deleted account. Or I understand something someone once said to me and I want to reach out and tell them that I finally understood what they meant but I have no means of contacting them. Its so easy to see the bad that social media has caused but if you have lived pre-internet you know the feeling of mistakenly loosing people forever. Maybe the risk of that enriched the experiences at the time though. It's so long ago now it's hard to remember.

P_I_Staker 4y ago
Sounds like they just lost your number from their address book, lol. I've had this happen countless times.

SketchySeaBeast 4y ago

I'm surprised by the number of people here who apparently don't have friends who they are physically far away from.