It's easy to call someone an enabler, but it might be more generous to assume they have reasons other than being "comfortable". The first thing you learn as an

It's easy to call someone an enabler, but it might be more generous to assume they have reasons other than being "comfortable". The first thing you learn as an immigrant to the US is to avoid escalating conflicts, especially with Americans. Even a perfectly legal immigrant like me, in a "blue state" like Washington, will avoid rocking the boat. You don't have a safety net to fall back on, you don't have extended family to help you out and support you, and you already have too many other things to worry about, so you try to avoid the risk of having a random stranger make your life a living hell because you misjudged how safe it is to tell them off.