Any advice for others going through this phase of their life? I have a terrible feeling this will be me; when I think of having a child I do think about it as i

Any advice for others going through this phase of their life? I have a terrible feeling this will be me; when I think of having a child I do think about it as if I will only be living for someone else (which is fine) but I have ambitions I want to materialize. How has living a post child life given you more insight into your pre child thoughts?