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Hi dang, I’ll read the guidelines and try to adhere to them carefully. That said, I’m not having much luck with other users being charitable in discussions, an

Hi dang, I’ll read the guidelines and try to adhere to them carefully. That said, I’m not having much luck with other users being charitable in discussions, and that to behavior (being charitable) is something I’d like to mutually benefit both myself and others; if there is a way to be more approachable or clear I’d like to know. Thanks for responding to me, and I also like your bio. I think tension drives learning. :)

dang 4y ago
FWIW my advice would be to include enough information in your comments to disambiguate your intent (see https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&sort=byDate&type=comment&query=disambiguate%20burden%20by:dang https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&so... for past explanations about that). It's all too easy to assume that other people know what we know, because the contents of our minds are obvious to us, but of course other people have no direct access to that; they only have access to the information you explicitly put in your messages. Most online misunderstandings, including uncharitable interpretations, seem to come from that. Beyond that, the only thing we can each do is raise our standards for ourselves and lower our standards for other people. That may sound unfair, but we're all biased in our own favor to begin with, so it's a balancing move.