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Yeah this works great until you realize you're the one _always_ initiating and they say "Wow thanks for getting in touch" and you don't talk to them for another
by weka 5y ago
Yeah this works great until you realize you're the one _always_ initiating and they say "Wow thanks for getting in touch" and you don't talk to them for another 3 years.
- overvale 5y agoYeah, this happens to me a lot. But I’ve accepted that’s the price to be paid for keeping in touch with certain people. Of course, there are plenty of times when I decide it’s not worth it to be the only one who reaches out.
- arisAlexis 5y agoWhen do you stop ? After you teach out twice and it's now their turn for example?
- olivertaylor 5y agoNo, many more times than that. Maybe 6 months or a year of reaching out. I try to be very generous in this regard. Often times it takes many "investments" for the tactic to pay off.
- atrus 5y agoSure, but that just all it is though, a short two second message exchange. Everyone feels good for a bit, and that's that. What's the downside?
- throwaway2037 5y agoThis feels like the friend/emotional equivalent of a "Help Vampire" -- someone at work who is constantly asking for help. A /very/ distant friend/contact who is pinging you once every 1/2/6/12 months (thank you crontab!) are doing nothing other than "keeping a contact list"... while sucking blood from your neck. If they are an extrovert and you are a introvert, the exchange is not zero sum!
- manmal 5y agoThere‘s always the possibility to ignore such people, no need to help or respond if you feel used.