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Ask HN: How can I get a tech job that's more social?
I've found WFH tech to be really isolating and boring. Even with a few days in the office a week, it feels lacking. I miss pair programming and seeing people in person daily.
Are there any ways to look for tech jobs which are more social and have more in person time?
I've considered going into hardware so I have to be physically present in a lab with other people, but is there another way?
- evanfarrar 5y agoFind a job that is (remote) pairing? I have seen hardware shops that are eerily quiet and sparsely populated, so being in an office is not a precursor for social interaction.
- rrherr 5y agoCan anyone recommend some remote employers that do pair programming?
- evanfarrar 5y agoMy employer, VMware, has many teams working on Cloud Foundry that do pair programming. It can be more exhausting to pair program remotely, so I would reckon few do so 40 hours a week.
- abeppu 5y agoAnd not to get too far off it, but does anyone have a set of tools for remote pairing that they really like? Even if pairing isn't something you're doing constantly, I do think that for many teams and jobs, it's useful _sometimes_. But when the norm was for everyone to be in office, it was easy to start and have a solid high-bandwidth session -- just both pull up to the same desk. I find voice + screenshare still misses a bunch of cues, lag is of course disruptive, and the switch between who has control of the screen etc is clunky, so one person tends to drive for a long time.
- evanfarrar 5y agoTuple is great, zoom is OK, tmux plus a neutral VM in AWS is great for lower bandwidth pairing. > so one person tends to drive for a long time This is not wrong though.
- dymk 5y agoFind a local club for a hobby you enjoy. Take an art class at a local community college.
- jasode 5y ago>Find a local club for a hobby you enjoy. Take an art class at a local community college. Based on the specific words (e.g. "pair programming") the op used in his question, I think he's looking for the work itself to be more social during work hours. Therefore, suggesting an art class or joining a club outside of work is answering a different question.
- dymk 5y agoI think this is an example of the X-Y problem :) OP wants more socialization - I think it's good to think outside the box a bit, especially for us programmers who tend to let programming and work absorb their lives.
- jasode 5y ago>I think this is an example of the X-Y problem [...] , especially for us programmers who tend to let programming and work absorb their lives. Everybody is different but I as a coincidence, I personally tried your suggestion to pursue outside hobbies and finally learned that it's really the work that makes me happy. I made a previous comment about that life lesson: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23925964 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23925964 Some of the replies agree with me. I do understand your viewpoint and acknowledge I'm in the minority group that wants deep work to "absorb my life". I thought I could be a mercenary and just compartmentalize "work" as 9-to-5 and then do "fun stuff" outside of the job but that doesn't make me happy. Maybe the op doesn't want to work more than 40 hours but if he's asking in 3 different ways to work more around people, it makes perfect sense to me that he wants the work itself to be more social. A few hours a week at an art class still doesn't fix the 40 hours of lonely working.
- lostcolony 5y agoAgreed. Look elsewhere, for people with shared interests. Don't tie your social circle to work. It makes it harder to leave the job and allows the company to take greater advantage of you.
- rpastuszak 5y agoHej, I started "office hours" when anyone can call me to pair program, get a coffee and chat or rant: https://sonnet.io/posts/hi/ https://sonnet.io/posts/hi/ (Feel free to come and say hi!) I'm not the most social person in the room, but I've met so many fascinating people through this channel. Even though it's not the same as sitting with those people in the same room, I was surprised to see how much energy, satisfaction, inspiration I get from those calls. It also makes it easier for me to meet people IRL and helps my consulting gig.
- mojomark 5y agoTechnical sales. It's not easy to find people who are personable but can also explain the underlying tech clearly to potential customers... and the best tech in the world isn't with a hill of beans if it isn't being used by sutomers. If your an inherently social, dependable and trustworthy person, I believe the sales part of it comes naturally.
- DeanWormer 5y agoHighly recommend this as well. And I encourage people to not get scared off by the "sales" aspect of the job. As the technical resource, you're almost never closing deals, cold calling, or any of the other salesy responsibilities. Your job is really just to help the potential customer solve a problem with your technology. You gather requirements about their problem, and have technical conversations to show how your product(s) can be a good fit. You get to build demos, and learn new technologies and never have to be responsible for production. The earning potential can be very high, especially if your team exceeds your sales quotas. Look for jobs like solution architect, sales engineer, customer engineer, pre-sales engineer.
- guyzero 5y agoThis. Being a sales engineer can be just as technically demanding as any job shuffling protobufs in a big tech company. But there's a lot more 1:1 interaction talking to people and gathering information about the problem they're trying to solve. Jobs like devrel can also have a good combination of being technical and talking to people and giving presentations. Finally roles like "Technical Account Manager" can vary really widely across companies - in some cases these are basically glorified support jobs or sales jobs where you're dealing with existing customers instead of new customers. In other places it can be more like a solutions engineer where you're implementing a customer-specific solution using your company's platform. Again, a lot of 1:1 communication with customers.
- bin_bash 5y agoyou could look into evangelism. Though I did myself a few years ago and found the pay to be much less than what I make as a normal SWE
- Minor49er 5y agoYou could become a project manager. There's still an engineering side to it since you'll be working with your team on how to solve various problems. You'll also be talking to pretty much every other department in the company (assuming it's a small- to mid-sized company)
- softwaredoug 5y agoConsulting A lot of consulting is technical planning and brainstorming with leadership. I used to have that kind of role, and you had a mix of heads-down work prototyping and heads-up work trying to understand requirements and think with different leaders on the best path forward. Related: Staff or Principle Eng Similar role to consulting above, but you're in house and often part of leadership...
- ABNW 5y agoVery interesting! I've just moved into a consulting role and am discovering that it is very much like this. If you don't mind me asking, may I ask for some general advice? Would like to know if there are there any people / resources that helped you out in this role? Or even any general guidance you could give someone just starting out? Also - out of interest - what is it you do now?
- softwaredoug 5y agoOP here, I left consulting a bit more than a year ago after doing it for 8 years. * Listening is huge. * And knowing how to 'hedge' when having opinions also huge. Like venturing an opinion as a question or using "forgive my ignorance, let me ask a stupid question" You're probably not going to have the 'big idea' that saves them. But rather, your role is often to help the client have the big idea and own it. You're kind of a therapist for them/the org to think through something. You'll never has as much context as they do on their org/tech specific challenges. But you can help them by bringing outside perspective and ideas. I sort of did a retrospective on my time as a consultant on my personal blog which might help https://softwaredoug.com/blog/2020/12/22/hack-your-career-with-consulting.html https://softwaredoug.com/blog/2020/12/22/hack-your-career-wi...
- cjauvin 5y agoI'd be also very interested to know more about your experience and ideas, and also, I would take the occasion to try to better understand what is exactly meant by "consultant", in this context (for some reason I would always want to distinguish between the sense where it's you working solo and independently for a company, and the other, where there's you, a company "hiring" you and their client).
- codegeek 5y agoIf you are in Philadelphia area, come work for us. A small SAAS edtech company. I love working in person (even though ironically a lot of our team is remote in different countries)
- PretzelSweat 5y agoCould you expand on your company and current needs?
- codegeek 5y agoContact me directly. Will be easier to discuss.
- moneywoes 5y agoMaybe start talking to your coworkers more? It could be that they feel similarly and want to see others too.
- spookthesunset 5y agoYes. At the office. Zoom sucks for anything social.
- browningstreet 5y agoWhy are you WFH? A lot of companies are asking people to come back into the office.. what about one of those orgs?
- spookthesunset 5y agoOurs shut down again despite almost the entire company being vaccinated. “It’s not safe”. People have completely lost their mind (plus there are some very loud voices that are using this thing to push their WFH agenda)
- jamesakirk 5y agoSame. It goes without saying perhaps, but one consideration is what type of social contact you want. I work in a technical role and I miss my colleagues immensely. I feel best when I am around people I know, and when my job entails keeping a small group of people happy. Working in sales, consulting, or relationship management is about working with strangers.... of balancing the joint demands of both your employer and the client. I get very self-critical and anxious in these roles.
- geofft 5y agoDo you want to see people in person specifically or just be more social? As a senior IC, over the last year I've actually become kind of overwhelmed with meetings and Slack rooms because the nature/scope of my work is across so many teams, and I'm curious if you think this would be enough for you, or you'd still find it isolating. I work in a platform engineering organization on internal tools, which means basically the entire engineering org are my "customers". At the moment I'm in a weekly meeting on OS-level configuration. I started a weekly meeting on our build system which has turned into a reading group of Google's SWE book. Our larger group (everyone under my boss's boss) has a weekly presentation series. I have a variety of less-frequent meetings, including a 1:1 with another engineer in a very different part of the org, some cross-team meetings, etc. And I regularly have all sorts of ad-hoc meetings. I do interviews pretty frequently. So it feels like I'm spending most of the day talking to people; I actually have very few blocks of time for writing code (let alone reviewing code or reading/writing docs) by myself. I mean, maybe I'm just an introvert who's in an extraverted culture, and to you, this would also count as isolated and boring :)
- chrismatheson 5y agoCoworking spaces. Not the “we work” kind, but the smaller community run ones. Being social can be with people who aren’t colleagues. This way you set your own limits on the environment, rather than joining a new place that might be too much of an over correction six months from now.
- reaperducer 5y agoCoworking spaces. Not the “we work” kind, but the smaller community run ones. Being social can be with people who aren’t colleagues. I recently moved to a new city and discovered that unlike my old city, this one has lots of small coworking spaces. Some are run by neighborhood boards to foster community. Some are run as startup business incubators. One down the street I find particularly inspiring — It's co-working for mothers. So WFH moms can have a place to do their work, and the facility provides daycare right there. I think this brilliantly solves at least two of the modern working world's biggest problems.
- cpfohl 5y agoThis is the way to go. Many will also have private offices that provide the perfect balance between quiet space and socializing opportunities.
- ultrasounder 5y agoPerhaps look into Developer Advocacy. You get generate a lot of educational material, interact with your potential customers(developers) "socially" and who knows make vital connections?
- syndacks 5y agoHey, thanks for asking this question. I feel the same way. However, I think you've already answered your question, (and I have too) which is -- it's the pandemic, not the job. Your pre-pandemic SWE job had enough socialization in it to satisfy you. My best advice would be to either continue waiting until things get back to normal, or, start applying for jobs that require 3-5 days a week in the office.
- ramesh31 5y agoMaybe look for that kind of interaction more in your normal life. Moving to WFH during covid made me realize for the first time that I had wasted my entire life investing all of my energy into the workplace. There's a lot more to life than your career. And working remotely is an unbelievable privilege that most people don't get. Take advantage of it.
- polynomial 5y agoCurious what people thing is the reason this post is being downvoted (while also having decent responses in the comments.) On the surface, that would seem to indicate it is a polarizing topic.
- ectopod 5y agoWhat do you mean? Posts don't have a downvote button.
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- nicoburns 5y agoHave you considered just looking for a job that still requires in-person attendance. Not sure what it's like where you are, but here in the UK there seem to be plenty of those.
- reaperducer 5y agoAre there any ways to look for tech jobs which are more social and have more in person time? If you're interested in in person time with the general public along with office people, consider healthcare. Some of the mid-sized and smaller-sized healthcare companies offer technical people lots of opportunities to interface with the actual people who benefit from their work. For example, my company does healthcare largely for the poor and underserved. Every person in the company from C-level down to button pushers like myself is required to attend public-facing events a certain amount of time each year. In my case, while I'm helping these people in other ways, I also get to actually ask them face-to-face "What kind of computer do you have?" and to look at the actual phones they carry with them and to experience the kind of internet service they have in their neighborhoods. This hand-on intelligence is invaluable. Server logs are great in theory, but they are no substitute for actual field work. Even with the 'rona scattering a lot of us behind-the-scenes people to the four winds, remote workers are still required to put in a certain amount of face time with the clients, whether that means flying back to the mother ship or driving to work regional events. If general public isn't your thing, get into internal IT support. Walking around a call center watching people doing their jobs helps you think about the systems you build in ways that plowing through trouble tickets doesn't.
- Mikeb85 5y agoForget about your job, use the free time you spend not commuting going out and simply socialising. Work 'friends' often aren't really friends and don't keep in touch when you move on, friends made outside of work are generally ones you actually choose and can keep longer.
- red_hare 5y agoMy NYC-based startup is struggling with this from the other side right now. Half of us are "in person people" and the other half have never been happier working remote, so we're doing it team by team. My team has decided to be in-person. We show up 3+ days a week, have in-person happy hours, grab lunch together, and optimize our meetings for in-person. I love it. But now hiring for this team has become impossible. We have other teams that will take on remote engineers, but ours looking for someone who also prefers in-person is just filtering so many people so early in the pipeline.
- atatatat 5y agoPost contact information if you're interested in technical sales/consulting work!
- baron_harkonnen 5y agoI would recommend looking into decoupling your social needs from your job. Even in the time before wide spread WFH this was an issue, during good times it feels great to go into work and get all your social needs met but when layoffs come or companies collapse suddenly that great work friend everyone loves gets let go and in a few more weeks they effectively don't exist anymore. It's great if you can meet people at work and create a real friendship (I've certainly done that). Now that you're remote you can put more time into keeping up with those people. Schedule lunches, video calls etc. Get to know your neighbors better, join local interest groups, schedule video chats with friends you haven't chatted with in a while that live far away, and make sure to get lunch with local friends whenever you can. It will be a bit of transition but ultimately you'll have a much richer social life and honestly enjoy work more as well since you have more outlets in the day that have nothing to do with your 9-5.
- paulcole 5y agoMost people spend 8 hours a day at work. That's a huge amount of our lives. There's a difference between being dependent on work for social contact and wanting to work in an environment that's social. I don't think this person is looking for a work BFF so much as a work environment that is collaborative and isn't built around solo work.
- spookthesunset 5y agoThat nice but doesn’t answer the question. WFH for a lot of people sucks. Especially roles that aren’t right software engineer. Many roles are very hard to do remote (product, UX, etc) I can’t wait to return to our offices and go back to normal. WFH works for some people and some projects but not all. Plus being around people that aren’t your family is nice too.
- LindyTalker 5y agoTone deaf. There's still ~6 hours a day of just sitting in a room alone. Glad you've found success in life but this might not be for others
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- 999900000999 5y agoI'll also say don't expect to socialize at work. It should be a given now but you should never ever ask a co worker out. It's too risky for everyone involved. Conduct which is okay at a bar or a party has no place in an office. That said I have made great friends at work. This should be a bonus. If you want to make friends and date do that at a bar , alumni events , concerts, etc. If you step to a girl and ask if you can buy her a beer at a pub, the worst that happens is she'll say no. If you do it at work, you might come off as rude , seriously don't date co workers. It's easy for HR to get rid of you. For my part I've had a gay co worker aggressively hit on me. At a bar I'd laugh this off ( or even let him buy me a drink ). At work I felt very uncomfortable. No I don't want to know I look like your husband, why is that an appropriate thing to say in the office!
- donretag 5y agoAt no point did the OP talk about dating. Not sure what is driving your comment.
- 999900000999 5y agoA lot of people use socialization as a euphemism for dating. Regardless you shouldn't expect anything from work aside from a paycheck. I actually love working remote because while I try to be a friendly person in the office, I'm not at the office to make friends.