Take some of that money and pay for some therapy and talk about this stuff. Not meant to be a flippant comment - it’s genuinely the best thing you could do for

Take some of that money and pay for some therapy and talk about this stuff. Not meant to be a flippant comment - it’s genuinely the best thing you could do for yourself and your wife in this situation. Be prepared to fire therapist that don’t click though. Also, try and renegotiate commitments you’ve made to yourself and people in your personal and professional life. You can improve your situation!