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So, serious question: if I was going to buy a ring for my girlfriend, would this be a good time to buy?
by octygen 6y ago
So, serious question: if I was going to buy a ring for my girlfriend, would this be a good time to buy?
- ThePowerOfFuet 6y agoNo, because they never go on sale. They're stockpiled to preserve artificial market scarcity, instead of degrading the perceived value of the product by discounting it.
- andrepd 6y agoMoissanite my friend. Save money for things that you enjoy (travelling, hobbies, concerts) and avoid funding a dirty industry (dirty in every sense of the word).
- usaphp 6y agoA what-a-nite?
- runawaybottle 6y agoExplain that to his girlfriend, or any girl you’ve ever been with. It just represents way too much in their heads.
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- andrepd 6y agoBold statement to make about 3,500,000,000 people. That thinking rationally is impossible for their heads. For what's worth my girlfriend already made it clear that she would be very upset if I ever bought her such expensive jewellery, precisely because of lost opportunity cost in things like enjoyable trips through Europe, attending concerts/plays and that sort of actually meaningful experiences. So hey, there goes your theory?
- usaphp 6y agoFor some people receiving an expensive jewelry is a more meaningful experience that going trips through Europe. Every person is different...
- thefounder 6y agoYeah, some people are really brain washed.
- colinjoy 6y ago“Explain that to his girlfriend, or any girl you’ve ever been with.” “Bold statement to make about 3,500,000,000 people” Wow... you must have very busy tinder profile. :D
- runawaybottle 6y agoI guess I was being a little tongue in cheek, but I’m mostly implying the discussion is not as simple as ‘hey this is really expensive, what about this cheaper alternative’. It’s a delicate thing because for many people it’s one of four things they probably dreamt about their whole life - marriage, ring, baby, house. There’s a lot of emotion behind all of it. I’d love to be able to convince her that the ring money would do great in a Vanguard fund instead :p. Edit: Looks like I have to put this disclaimer, for many people the things I listed above are milestones (not for all).
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- leorio 6y agoGold is always on option :)
- umvi 6y agoBuy a synthetic diamond instead. De Beers is the worst, they artificially limit supply and spread misinformation about synthetic diamonds to protect their interests.
- jimhefferon 6y agoSerious answer: have you discussed it with her? If you have talked it over and the major purchase of the engagement ring is something the two of you want to do then great, go for it. But it may be that the right decision for you is to think about alternate uses for the money. Deciding to get married is wonderful. Congratulations! But sometimes people have a mental image of the sitcom scene where the one partner astounds the other by suddenly getting on one knee and plunking $30K on their hand. On reflection, that may not be the right way for people to start their life together, is all I'm saying.
- verroq 6y agoIf I may interject, discussing potential surprises like this will kill the mood and ruin your big reveal later. So unless you’re sure your partner will take it well, I suggest not discussing things like this do just do as you please. Some other friendly tips: you can secretly measure your partner’s finger size to get the perfect ring without them suspecting. Going through the effort of getting the ring and sizing it properly without them suspecting shows how much you care and will yield you a better outcome than discussing this matter directly with them ;) Edit: this is obviously with the assumption that you’ve at decided to get married. The surprise is about the ring not the marriage.
- srinivgp 6y agoIf I may interject, no surprise with stakes that high is actually worth the downside risk. Just communicate. Unless you're sure your partner would have agreed that the surprise was worth not communicating, I suggest discussing things like this.
- tasssko 6y agoArtificial diamonds are amazing more perfect in clarity and colour. Though because they target a more budget market, i’d buy a 1ct artificial stone and take it to a jeweller to set in a one of a kind ring made with platinum, gold, etc. I think you’ll still have enough cash for a small car or a long holiday.
- unstatusthequo 6y agoI got a Diamond Foundry one for my wife. Incredible clarity, cut, and quality. Probably 2/3 the price of comparable “real” diamond but without all that pesky diamond mine slavery, corruption, and monopolization. Wife liked it MORE because it wasn’t a “blood diamond.”
- dijit 6y agoI would say that diamonds as jewellry is a bad idea in general; it is artificially scarce, can be developed in a lab in a more perfect way (in fact, "too perfect" is how jewellers know a diamond has been created artificially) and doesn't shimmer as much as other stones. I would instead look at Moissanite[0]; looks better, holds it's value a little bit better although debeers has killed a second hand market for this kind of jewellry.. [0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moissanite https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moissanite
- citizenkeen 6y agoEstate diamonds are way cheaper than new ones, and just as much a diamond by any metric as a De Beers diamond.
- sukilot 6y agoWhy doesn't de Beers have an army of staff to buy those all up ?
- ckdarby 6y agoHere is all you need: https://ensorings.com/ https://ensorings.com/
- quadrifoliate 6y agoA serious and somewhat foolproof answer that should work for most reasonable couples: Buy her a simple silver or gold ring when you propose. This shows commitment, and both silver and gold jewelry hold value far better than diamonds. After proposing, you have several options: * If she wants a diamond or moissanite or CZ or other ring, the two of you can go shopping for it later, or commission a custom one. * If she doesn't want an expensive ring, you can spend it on other things. * If she gets extremely upset and refuses just because you should have gotten a diamond ring the first time, you might want to rethink whether you want to spend your life with this person.
- formercoder 6y agoLab grown diamonds. Moissanite and CZ don’t look the same. Lab grown diamonds are chemically identical.
- aggie 6y agoFinding a life partner is not easy. I suggest not adding "must be ok without a diamond ring" to your criteria. Also, communicate beforehand rather than taking a stand on an issue she will literally wear for life and expecting her to accede. I say this as someone who likes the idea of moissanite, but relented to getting an "ethical" diamond from Canada (there is some dispute about provenance of these diamonds). In other words, this isn't a hill to die on.
- chrisbennet 6y agoOur wedding rings were 3D printed plastic. Simple bands. When they break or our fingers change size, I print some more.
- raincom 6y agoGet a zirconium ring, instead. Save that money for something else: for example, downpayment for your next home. https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2017/07/03/why-smart-people-buy-cubic-zirconia-engagement-rings/#30ebfb0594f0 https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2017/07/03/why-smart-peop...