If my comment implies I only think of my mother once a month, then I certain failed in writing it. I think of her constantly - I spent decades trying and failin

If my comment implies I only think of my mother once a month, then I certain failed in writing it. I think of her constantly - I spent decades trying and failing to be a positive influence on her life, at great emotional cost to myself. It reached a point where I concluded I could not help her, and trying was self-destructive, so now I keep her at a distance. I've seen far too many people failing to thrive because they are chained to an obligation of selflessness. Given the spiteful tone of your comment, I sense you have probably left a lot of happiness on the table and wish to guilt others into doing the same. Sounds like my mother!