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No. It would come off as weird or creepy just to email someone out of the blue. Also, email is impersonal and seems like you are trying to solicit something fro

No. It would come off as weird or creepy just to email someone out of the blue. Also, email is impersonal and seems like you are trying to solicit something from them. If someone had a positive impact on you just tell them when you meet in person. If you are really intent on contacting them for whatever reason, then a personal letter might be better.

jimhefferon 7y ago
I have some Free materials and FWIW at least in my case when I am contacted out of the blue it does not seem weird (I get maybe one a month). People email and send polite, brief, and respectful notes. It would take quite the grouch to not appreciate getting such a note, and I always reply.
justinclift 7y ago
Interesting. The people who've contacted me (via email) to say positive things I've generally taken at face value about <whatever they said>. Maybe I just don't feel people are being weird/creepy when they thank me for the effort I've put into things? Re: "email is impersonal". To me, it's not. But then... I use a lot of emoticons and similar, to help convey things better than "impersonally". :D
- elfexec 7y ago
  > The people who've contacted me (via email) to say positive things I've generally taken at face value about <whatever they said>. That's good to hear, but what else do you expect them to say? You put them on the spot and I suspect 99% of the people would be polite. > Maybe I just don't feel people are being weird/creepy when they thank me for the effort I've put into things? If you didn't think it was weird/creepy, why are you here trying to get validation? I suspect deep down you know it is a bit weird and that's why you are seeking validation here. Or this is just another of those manipulative social engineering ploys you see all over social media. > Re: "email is impersonal". To me, it's not. But then... I use a lot of emoticons and similar, to help convey things better than "impersonally". :D That would come off as even creepier unless you are contacting family/friends. And if you are contacting family/friends, why not tell them in person when you meet them? And if it is just business acquaintances who helped you out, emails full of emoticons would come off as silly and unprofessional. But then again, I'm one of those ancient former 90s kids. I also love that with these types of self-validation posts, only validating comments we know deep down are not true are upvoted, but the reality based critical comments we know deep down are true get downvoted. But whatever the agenda was in regards to your post, I hope you got what you wanted out of it.
  - justinclift 7y ago
    > That's good to hear, but what else do you expect them to say? You put them on the spot and I suspect 99% of the people would be polite. Did you read too fast or something? I'm talking about people who's emailed me out of the blue. > If you didn't think it was weird/creepy, why are you here trying to get validation? Huh? What are you even talking about? What "trying to get validation"? I was saying that people who've emailed me don't come across as weird of creepy. Not sure where you're getting the rest of your ... [I don't even know what to call that] from. It sounds like you're trying to put people down. It's weird. > That would come off as even creepier unless you are contacting family/friends. Heh Heh Heh. Well, that explains a few things. You don't seem to understand how to communicate via text, and seem to misinterpret things in bizarre ways, and/or put people down. Good luck with that. ;) > ... why not tell them in person when you meet them? Meet who? The vast majority of people I communicate with are not people I've ever met in person, not are likely to. Distributed teams are a thing. ;) Sounds like your life is lived very differently, and you just can't relate. No worries. ;)
    - elfexec 7y ago
      > Did you read too fast or something? I'm talking about people who's emailed me out of the blue. Sorry, I did. > Huh? What are you even talking about? Your post. The purpose of your post. If you didn't think it was weird, why would you seek validation here? > You don't seem to understand how to communicate via text, and seem to misinterpret things in bizarre ways, and/or put people down. Text? I thought you said email? > Meet who? I was very specific in my comment. > Distributed teams are a thing. ;) Oh you didn't mention people you were currently working with. Your post made it seem like just random people in your past. Of course thanking people you work with for their help and contribution is normal and appreciated. > Sounds like your life is lived very differently, and you just can't relate. No worries. ;) Maybe. If it works, just keep doing you. Why even bother seeking validation? If people are contacting you out of the blue and you are contacting people out of the blue, then it's a norm for you so why bother asking here? Seems strange, that's all.
      - wtetzner 7y ago

jimhefferon 7y ago

I have some Free materials and FWIW at least in my case when I am contacted out of the blue it does not seem weird (I get maybe one a month). People email and send polite, brief, and respectful notes. It would take quite the grouch to not appreciate getting such a note, and I always reply.

justinclift 7y ago

Interesting. The people who've contacted me (via email) to say positive things I've generally taken at face value about <whatever they said>. Maybe I just don't feel people are being weird/creepy when they thank me for the effort I've put into things? Re: "email is impersonal". To me, it's not. But then... I use a lot of emoticons and similar, to help convey things better than "impersonally". :D

elfexec 7y ago
> The people who've contacted me (via email) to say positive things I've generally taken at face value about <whatever they said>. That's good to hear, but what else do you expect them to say? You put them on the spot and I suspect 99% of the people would be polite. > Maybe I just don't feel people are being weird/creepy when they thank me for the effort I've put into things? If you didn't think it was weird/creepy, why are you here trying to get validation? I suspect deep down you know it is a bit weird and that's why you are seeking validation here. Or this is just another of those manipulative social engineering ploys you see all over social media. > Re: "email is impersonal". To me, it's not. But then... I use a lot of emoticons and similar, to help convey things better than "impersonally". :D That would come off as even creepier unless you are contacting family/friends. And if you are contacting family/friends, why not tell them in person when you meet them? And if it is just business acquaintances who helped you out, emails full of emoticons would come off as silly and unprofessional. But then again, I'm one of those ancient former 90s kids. I also love that with these types of self-validation posts, only validating comments we know deep down are not true are upvoted, but the reality based critical comments we know deep down are true get downvoted. But whatever the agenda was in regards to your post, I hope you got what you wanted out of it.
- justinclift 7y ago
  > That's good to hear, but what else do you expect them to say? You put them on the spot and I suspect 99% of the people would be polite. Did you read too fast or something? I'm talking about people who's emailed me out of the blue. > If you didn't think it was weird/creepy, why are you here trying to get validation? Huh? What are you even talking about? What "trying to get validation"? I was saying that people who've emailed me don't come across as weird of creepy. Not sure where you're getting the rest of your ... [I don't even know what to call that] from. It sounds like you're trying to put people down. It's weird. > That would come off as even creepier unless you are contacting family/friends. Heh Heh Heh. Well, that explains a few things. You don't seem to understand how to communicate via text, and seem to misinterpret things in bizarre ways, and/or put people down. Good luck with that. ;) > ... why not tell them in person when you meet them? Meet who? The vast majority of people I communicate with are not people I've ever met in person, not are likely to. Distributed teams are a thing. ;) Sounds like your life is lived very differently, and you just can't relate. No worries. ;)
  - elfexec 7y ago
    > Did you read too fast or something? I'm talking about people who's emailed me out of the blue. Sorry, I did. > Huh? What are you even talking about? Your post. The purpose of your post. If you didn't think it was weird, why would you seek validation here? > You don't seem to understand how to communicate via text, and seem to misinterpret things in bizarre ways, and/or put people down. Text? I thought you said email? > Meet who? I was very specific in my comment. > Distributed teams are a thing. ;) Oh you didn't mention people you were currently working with. Your post made it seem like just random people in your past. Of course thanking people you work with for their help and contribution is normal and appreciated. > Sounds like your life is lived very differently, and you just can't relate. No worries. ;) Maybe. If it works, just keep doing you. Why even bother seeking validation? If people are contacting you out of the blue and you are contacting people out of the blue, then it's a norm for you so why bother asking here? Seems strange, that's all.
    - wtetzner 7y ago