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You can't really blame someone for wondering about this when it happens so often.

• Jako33 7y ago
  Do you date people asking them if they are after for your money or if they are trying to get something from you? Or do your friends at gathering casually joke about it? As a foreigner who dated an american in the past I agree it hurts to hear that you are after a status/GC/money when you genuinely care about the person. It is humiliating and wrong.
  • bernierocks 7y ago
    Well, I'm the reverse. I'm an American that dated a foreigner. While my friends didn't actively joke about it, I had many conversations from concerned friends and family. "It is humiliating and wrong" While I don't think it's right, I can understand why it might cross a person's mind. Many cultures have a different idea about marriage. If you are living in a country where there is no future because the economy is horrible and there are no jobs, and all you need to do is marry an American to not only get out of this situation, but also help your family. Wouldn't you do it? Many choose to do this and because it's so prevalent from some countries, it becomes the rule, not the exception.
    • Jako33 7y ago
      The article is about a person born and raised in Finland, who lived in Berlin, went to NYC to study in Columbia University, and who can afford to pay $8000 in legal fees and months of paperwork to get an O1 visa. With such a background such a person should be given at least the benefit of the doubt. "Deceiving" marriages, sham marriages or other 'mail-order' brides services are unfortunately a thing, but to say that it has become the rule for relationships between Americans and non-Americans is a naive shortcut and is certainly untrue.