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"Indifferent towards rape." Seriously? Not being triggered by a depiction of a rape in a novel doesn't mean you're indifferent towards rape. And while "springi

"Indifferent towards rape." Seriously? Not being triggered by a depiction of a rape in a novel doesn't mean you're indifferent towards rape. And while "springing" "triggering" "content" on a weak person is a bad idea, encouraging them to seek out triggering content on their own and approach it at their own pace is going to create a stronger, better person. It's not just about the trigger either - learning that you can overcome something like that is extremely empowering. Hiding for the rest of your life is slowly going to turn you into a coward.

ceejayoz 7y ago
> Not being triggered by a depiction of a rape in a novel doesn't mean you're indifferent towards rape. That wasn't the point being made. The point is that if depictions of rape are triggering to you, it's not necessarily important to work on not being triggered by rape depictions. Avoidance is generally acceptable there.
- antepodius 7y ago
  Isn't it better for a person to not be triggerable? Wouldn't you wish, if a friend of yours was chronically vunerable in a way that hindered them that, all else being equal, they would become more resilient- for their own sake?
  - ceejayoz 7y ago
    Sure. That’s what therapy is for. It's still a long, tough road for survivors of trauma. Triggering people in an unsafe, uncontrolled context can make it harder, not easier.
  - mirimir 7y ago
    Yes, this !!! Being triggerable is a weakness. It gives others power over you. So why would anyone want that? Also, not being triggerable does not mean being insensitive or cynical or tolerant or whatever. It's just about being able to deal with stuff without freaking out.
    - ceejayoz 7y ago
      > So why would anyone want that? Even after decades of therapy, rape victims may still be triggered by descriptions/depictions of rape. Abuse victims may not be able to watch a movie with an abused child without breaking down, even after long, intensive therapy. It's not generally a choice.
      - mirimir 7y ago
        OK, thanks. And upon reflection, I get that I'm triggered by dogs. Having been attacked by a doberman, many years ago. And surviving only because it was on a chain, and I didn't fall down. So it only took a chunk out of one ankle. So now, whenever I encounter a dog, I immediately think about what I could use as a weapon.
eropple 7y ago
> encouraging them to seek out triggering content on their own and approach it at their own pace is going to create a stronger, better person Are you a therapist? Are you their therapist?
pgcj_poster 7y ago
Approaching something at your own pace is a lot easier if you can know it advance where you're likely to encounter it.

ceejayoz 7y ago

> Not being triggered by a depiction of a rape in a novel doesn't mean you're indifferent towards rape. That wasn't the point being made. The point is that if depictions of rape are triggering to you, it's not necessarily important to work on not being triggered by rape depictions. Avoidance is generally acceptable there.

antepodius 7y ago
Isn't it better for a person to not be triggerable? Wouldn't you wish, if a friend of yours was chronically vunerable in a way that hindered them that, all else being equal, they would become more resilient- for their own sake?
- ceejayoz 7y ago
  Sure. That’s what therapy is for. It's still a long, tough road for survivors of trauma. Triggering people in an unsafe, uncontrolled context can make it harder, not easier.
- mirimir 7y ago
  Yes, this !!! Being triggerable is a weakness. It gives others power over you. So why would anyone want that? Also, not being triggerable does not mean being insensitive or cynical or tolerant or whatever. It's just about being able to deal with stuff without freaking out.
  - ceejayoz 7y ago
    > So why would anyone want that? Even after decades of therapy, rape victims may still be triggered by descriptions/depictions of rape. Abuse victims may not be able to watch a movie with an abused child without breaking down, even after long, intensive therapy. It's not generally a choice.
    - mirimir 7y ago
      OK, thanks. And upon reflection, I get that I'm triggered by dogs. Having been attacked by a doberman, many years ago. And surviving only because it was on a chain, and I didn't fall down. So it only took a chunk out of one ankle. So now, whenever I encounter a dog, I immediately think about what I could use as a weapon.

eropple 7y ago

> encouraging them to seek out triggering content on their own and approach it at their own pace is going to create a stronger, better person Are you a therapist? Are you their therapist?

pgcj_poster 7y ago

Approaching something at your own pace is a lot easier if you can know it advance where you're likely to encounter it.