I read through NVC, and it is more than that. It would be really hard to prove that any system improved relationships because of confounding variables. You’d ne

I read through NVC, and it is more than that. It would be really hard to prove that any system improved relationships because of confounding variables. You’d need a 24hour judge to make sure that you weren’t violating the “rules” or whatever. That being said, NVC isn’t a panacea. I think the most useful thing it does though is helps you to change language patterns. There are a lot of incorrect language aphorisms, especially in America English because at best they cause confusion and at worse they cause conflict. Small example, try to see how many times you catch yourself or someone else saying, “I feel that...” followed by a bunch of words that are actually their opinions or thoughts. I actually think NVC is more of a great diagnostic tool then it is a set of practices. Communicating non-violently isn’t just about being “good” it is often, just as much, learning how to express reality more accurately. NVC is great at pointing out errors of thought and communication it really doesn’t try to say how to go about stopping yourself from doing it.