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“If I hug you I might just want more.” is a very creepy thing to say in my opinion.

by abcdcba 8y ago

jtanner 8y ago
Uncharitable reading: "a very creepy thing" Charitable reading: "a funny throw away comment"
- craftyguy 8y ago
  No, actually, it's just creepy.
  - czbond 8y ago
    While I'd agree with you 'in the wild' on a random person, if you watch Neil for a length of time on stage,.... he has an energy about him. It almost exudes as a hyperactive type of quality. Not many people are excited about space "stuff" - so I can see him just becoming overly excited when people ARE interested.
    - craftyguy 8y ago
      I've watched NDT quite a bit (being an amateur astronomer myself), but that statement is still creepy. I don't think that being 'energetic' automatically excempts any individual from criticism for their actions and words.
- DarthTetanus 8y ago
  That’s the kind of thing a horny fourteen year old boy says. It’s funny to precisely no one.
  - dsajames 8y ago
    Really? I bet many people would find it funny. Perhaps not you or your circle, but you don't define the world, his country, state, or community.
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wyldfire 8y ago
It's a pretty peculiar thing to say. Maybe even a bad attempt at flirting. But it seems like whether it's creepy depends on how it's delivered and by whom. Sure I suppose I'll grant that creepiness is subjective and others will find this creepy even if I don't. But what's more critical IMO is what if anything we should do about it. Should NDT lose job opportunities? Should women fear working with him? Not over 'creepiness' IMO. That said, losing job opportunities and women avoiding him is a natural consequence if the frequency/severity of the bad behavior continues. The power of #metoo is that through unity, past victims can prevent future ones. If NDT truly victimizes women, this disclosure will help prevent more.
- koonsolo 8y ago
  If #metoo is about sexual harassment, then going after people who once said something creepy seems to make the term less strong. To me, it feels like an insult to all people who were actual victims of sexual harassment.
taw123 8y ago
Maybe he doesn't like hugging and the comment was his way of deflecting.
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Doxin 8y ago
That rather depends on if that was intended to complete to "If I hug you I might just want more [hugs]." vs "If I hug you I might just want more [intimate things]."

“If I hug you I might just want more.” is a very creepy thing to say in my opinion.

jtanner 8y ago

Uncharitable reading: "a very creepy thing" Charitable reading: "a funny throw away comment"

craftyguy 8y ago
No, actually, it's just creepy.
- czbond 8y ago
  While I'd agree with you 'in the wild' on a random person, if you watch Neil for a length of time on stage,.... he has an energy about him. It almost exudes as a hyperactive type of quality. Not many people are excited about space "stuff" - so I can see him just becoming overly excited when people ARE interested.
  - craftyguy 8y ago
    I've watched NDT quite a bit (being an amateur astronomer myself), but that statement is still creepy. I don't think that being 'energetic' automatically excempts any individual from criticism for their actions and words.
DarthTetanus 8y ago
That’s the kind of thing a horny fourteen year old boy says. It’s funny to precisely no one.
- dsajames 8y ago
  Really? I bet many people would find it funny. Perhaps not you or your circle, but you don't define the world, his country, state, or community.
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wyldfire 8y ago

It's a pretty peculiar thing to say. Maybe even a bad attempt at flirting. But it seems like whether it's creepy depends on how it's delivered and by whom. Sure I suppose I'll grant that creepiness is subjective and others will find this creepy even if I don't. But what's more critical IMO is what if anything we should do about it. Should NDT lose job opportunities? Should women fear working with him? Not over 'creepiness' IMO. That said, losing job opportunities and women avoiding him is a natural consequence if the frequency/severity of the bad behavior continues. The power of #metoo is that through unity, past victims can prevent future ones. If NDT truly victimizes women, this disclosure will help prevent more.

koonsolo 8y ago
If #metoo is about sexual harassment, then going after people who once said something creepy seems to make the term less strong. To me, it feels like an insult to all people who were actual victims of sexual harassment.

taw123 8y ago

Maybe he doesn't like hugging and the comment was his way of deflecting.

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Doxin 8y ago

That rather depends on if that was intended to complete to "If I hug you I might just want more [hugs]." vs "If I hug you I might just want more [intimate things]."