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Consult your pediatrician before even considering letting your infant sleep with you. There may be additional SIDS concerns.

by qstyk 16y ago

petervandijck 16y ago
Meh. Also: everyone will have advice: you will learn to ignore most of it. Particularly advice by your parents. They had babies in a time when there were different priorities. So you'll have to learn to find your own way, trust your instincts, talk to other parents you like/admire. You can safely ignore most advice by most people :) (ps: my tip: you can't spoil a baby, not until they're, say, 1 year old (then discipline becomes part of the game. You can never kiss/hold/love them enough or give them too much attention at that age.)
- ghurlman 16y ago
  If you knew somebody who killed their baby by rolling over in their sleep on her, somehow I doubt "meh" would be your response.
  - mcknz 16y ago
    Yes, the reality is terrible, but as with anything else, it's risk/reward. I would rather enjoy the reward of going outside, even though there's a chance I will be struck by a car. In my opinion, the reward to the parents and the baby from co-sleeping outweighs the risks. You should of course take precautions to mitigate the risk. Definitely avoid those sleeping positioners.
  - points 16y ago
    How about the baby who died because through unknown causes in its own room, that could have been saved if it was in your own bed? everything carries a risk. Do what seems natural and right for you.
  - petervandijck 16y ago
    Of course. But that doesn't add strength to the argument that you shouldn't sleep with your baby.
jonasvp 16y ago
And what would the pediatrician say? No one knows what SIDS is caused by and deferring to external authority won't change that. Do whatever feels right for you.
- ceejayoz 16y ago
  No one knows what SIDS is caused by, but that certainly doesn't mean your pediatrician can't have any useful info on it. There are many studies on what reduces the occurrence. For example, the "back to sleep" campaign saw SIDS incidence go down by 50% in just a few years. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Back_to_Sleep http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Back_to_Sleep
  - jonasvp 16y ago
    True but that would usually be info you could just pick up from any book. The "ask your pediatrician" disclaimer just makes things seem dangerous that really aren't. SIDS is 6x higher in families where one or both parents smoke. The lower incidence in the last years might just be because of less people smoking. Anecdote: our midwife told us that we should put our son to sleep on his back. She also told us that in her working life, she'd first had to tell parents to put their kids to sleep on their belly, years later they were supposed to be safest on their side - there were even little foam triangles sold so the babies would stay put. Now it's on their back. I'd still say go with what feels right and worry about things that are more important.
run4yourlives 16y ago
There is nothing here the doctor can add, really. I've got two little ones myself, and while they both have their own room, had we chosen this route I wouldn't be bothering to ask a doctor about it.
Tichy 16y ago
My son is two weeks old by now, and the nurses at the hospital all said that a mother won't crush her child in bed. Apparently women have some kinds of instincts at work here. Men are a less safe bet, apparently. My sister (a phyisician) said that it can be dangerous if the men are drugged (alcohol, for example). There is also the sudden infant death syndrome. They still don't know what's going on, but statistics seem to dictate to have the baby sleep in the same room, but separate bed. That doesn't apply for the first four weeks, though - in the first four weeks it is apparently fine to have the baby sleep in the same bed. Also consider that the sudden infant death thing stems from the cold world of modern medicine. I think in individual cases it is probably OK to not stick to every rule. Some might be more important than others, too. For example smoking in the household seems to be extremely bad. Wish I had access to the raw statistics.
- petervandijck 16y ago
  You won't crush your baby, don't worry about it. (Unless you go to sleep drunk or something, I mean, really!) You can put that big pregnancy pillow around them for extra comfort.
  - lazyant 16y ago
    I know of a case where a baby died of asphyxiation while sleeping on the parent's bed. It may be isolated incident or whatever but I wouldn't dismiss this risk.
    - pyre 16y ago
      There are other cultures where sleeping with your baby is the norm, and they don't have issues babies dying left and right due to parents rolling over on them, so I think we need more than anecdotes to say that it's dangerous.
      - lazyant 16y ago
        I'm not saying it's a huge problem (I don't know) but it doesn't seem a good idea to risk it: "There has been a fourfold increase in the rate of infant strangulation and suffocation in the U.S. in the past 20 years, according to a report released today, and the apparent cause (though hardly the definitive one) is the rise in numbers of babies who share beds with their parents." source: http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/01/26/the-risks-of-sleeping-with-your-baby/ http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/01/26/the-risks-of-s... "The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) warn that infants should not co-sleep with their parents." source: http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/298_29656.asp http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/298_29656.asp "Adults sleeping with babies increases risk of sudden and unexplained infant death, inquest finds" source http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/health-science/adults-sleeping-with-babies-increases-risk-of-sudden-and-unexplained-infant-death-inquest-finds/story-e6frg8y6-1225932273399 http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/health-science/adults-s...
philwelch 16y ago
SIDS is less an actual disease, and more a convenient bucket to categorize "babies dying of asphyxiation for reasons we don't understand". Some of those are becoming better understood (babies can't always tell if they're breathing CO2 rather than oxygen so it turns out they shouldn't sleep on their tummies) but mostly it's a fancy medical term for "we don't know". It's not even a mysterious disease and "no one knows what it's caused by"--we don't even know that a disease exists.

Consult your pediatrician before even considering letting your infant sleep with you. There may be additional SIDS concerns.

by qstyk 16y ago

Consult your pediatrician before even considering letting your infant sleep with you. There may be additional SIDS concerns.

petervandijck 16y ago

Meh. Also: everyone will have advice: you will learn to ignore most of it. Particularly advice by your parents. They had babies in a time when there were different priorities. So you'll have to learn to find your own way, trust your instincts, talk to other parents you like/admire. You can safely ignore most advice by most people :) (ps: my tip: you can't spoil a baby, not until they're, say, 1 year old (then discipline becomes part of the game. You can never kiss/hold/love them enough or give them too much attention at that age.)

ghurlman 16y ago
If you knew somebody who killed their baby by rolling over in their sleep on her, somehow I doubt "meh" would be your response.
- mcknz 16y ago
  Yes, the reality is terrible, but as with anything else, it's risk/reward. I would rather enjoy the reward of going outside, even though there's a chance I will be struck by a car. In my opinion, the reward to the parents and the baby from co-sleeping outweighs the risks. You should of course take precautions to mitigate the risk. Definitely avoid those sleeping positioners.
- points 16y ago
  How about the baby who died because through unknown causes in its own room, that could have been saved if it was in your own bed? everything carries a risk. Do what seems natural and right for you.
- petervandijck 16y ago
  Of course. But that doesn't add strength to the argument that you shouldn't sleep with your baby.

jonasvp 16y ago

And what would the pediatrician say? No one knows what SIDS is caused by and deferring to external authority won't change that. Do whatever feels right for you.

ceejayoz 16y ago
No one knows what SIDS is caused by, but that certainly doesn't mean your pediatrician can't have any useful info on it. There are many studies on what reduces the occurrence. For example, the "back to sleep" campaign saw SIDS incidence go down by 50% in just a few years. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Back_to_Sleep http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Back_to_Sleep
- jonasvp 16y ago
  True but that would usually be info you could just pick up from any book. The "ask your pediatrician" disclaimer just makes things seem dangerous that really aren't. SIDS is 6x higher in families where one or both parents smoke. The lower incidence in the last years might just be because of less people smoking. Anecdote: our midwife told us that we should put our son to sleep on his back. She also told us that in her working life, she'd first had to tell parents to put their kids to sleep on their belly, years later they were supposed to be safest on their side - there were even little foam triangles sold so the babies would stay put. Now it's on their back. I'd still say go with what feels right and worry about things that are more important.

run4yourlives 16y ago

There is nothing here the doctor can add, really. I've got two little ones myself, and while they both have their own room, had we chosen this route I wouldn't be bothering to ask a doctor about it.

Tichy 16y ago

My son is two weeks old by now, and the nurses at the hospital all said that a mother won't crush her child in bed. Apparently women have some kinds of instincts at work here. Men are a less safe bet, apparently. My sister (a phyisician) said that it can be dangerous if the men are drugged (alcohol, for example). There is also the sudden infant death syndrome. They still don't know what's going on, but statistics seem to dictate to have the baby sleep in the same room, but separate bed. That doesn't apply for the first four weeks, though - in the first four weeks it is apparently fine to have the baby sleep in the same bed. Also consider that the sudden infant death thing stems from the cold world of modern medicine. I think in individual cases it is probably OK to not stick to every rule. Some might be more important than others, too. For example smoking in the household seems to be extremely bad. Wish I had access to the raw statistics.

petervandijck 16y ago
You won't crush your baby, don't worry about it. (Unless you go to sleep drunk or something, I mean, really!) You can put that big pregnancy pillow around them for extra comfort.
- lazyant 16y ago
  I know of a case where a baby died of asphyxiation while sleeping on the parent's bed. It may be isolated incident or whatever but I wouldn't dismiss this risk.
  - pyre 16y ago
    There are other cultures where sleeping with your baby is the norm, and they don't have issues babies dying left and right due to parents rolling over on them, so I think we need more than anecdotes to say that it's dangerous.
    - lazyant 16y ago
      I'm not saying it's a huge problem (I don't know) but it doesn't seem a good idea to risk it: "There has been a fourfold increase in the rate of infant strangulation and suffocation in the U.S. in the past 20 years, according to a report released today, and the apparent cause (though hardly the definitive one) is the rise in numbers of babies who share beds with their parents." source: http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/01/26/the-risks-of-sleeping-with-your-baby/ http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/01/26/the-risks-of-s... "The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) warn that infants should not co-sleep with their parents." source: http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/298_29656.asp http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/298_29656.asp "Adults sleeping with babies increases risk of sudden and unexplained infant death, inquest finds" source http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/health-science/adults-sleeping-with-babies-increases-risk-of-sudden-and-unexplained-infant-death-inquest-finds/story-e6frg8y6-1225932273399 http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/health-science/adults-s...

philwelch 16y ago

SIDS is less an actual disease, and more a convenient bucket to categorize "babies dying of asphyxiation for reasons we don't understand". Some of those are becoming better understood (babies can't always tell if they're breathing CO2 rather than oxygen so it turns out they shouldn't sleep on their tummies) but mostly it's a fancy medical term for "we don't know". It's not even a mysterious disease and "no one knows what it's caused by"--we don't even know that a disease exists.