Tangential: I was so pleased to see inline links to the actual studies cited. <3 I accept that others can evaluate us on some of these traits better than we ca

Tangential: I was so pleased to see inline links to the actual studies cited. <3 I accept that others can evaluate us on some of these traits better than we can ourselves. Given that, how hard is it to update our mental models to better match reality? Besides doing a poll of my friends (which seems shaky), how can I self-evaluate to know more objectively where I stand on these? Is that even possible (by, e.g., studying biases, rationality, 'taking every thought captive', etc)? It seems remarkably hard to try to address this in the workplace, where we feel so much pressure to be and seem competent anyway. I don't know if I trust my coworkers enough to honestly evaluate or be evaluated by them :D.