The problem is that often things are not so clear-cut... what seems like a fuckup at first glance or from one perspective might be something different (perhaps

The problem is that often things are not so clear-cut... what seems like a fuckup at first glance or from one perspective might be something different (perhaps one thing is messed up but it was to fix another thing, or perhaps you are mistaken and things are just different but not "fucked up", etc). As soon as you start shouting at someone, they will tend to get defensive and dig in their heels, thus making it more difficult to get to the bottom of what actually happened and why. For most of us in software, our jobs are not saving lives or anything -- it's not worth creating a toxic culture just so you can feel good about yourself by shouting at someone.