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What did you expect?

by J0-nas 10y ago

hellofunk 10y ago
I expected my colleagues to respect the things I do in private and realize I'm just human. And at the very least, if they were going to publicly respond, I'd have expected them to compliment me instead.
- song 10y ago
  This sucks, I can't imagine what goes through the mind of people making fun of someone for something like this that is clearly private. Hope you found a better job and colleagues after that.
- gkya 10y ago
  > things I do in private When you let it be recorded and the recording be possessed by someone else, it's practically public, as you can't control what'll happen in future and there will always be mean people that'll try to bully you for that sort of thing. I'm sad that it's caused you harm, but I guess in such situations showing confidence might work.
  - emodendroket 10y ago
    Would you respond the same way to someone whose spouse emptied out their bank accounts and ran off?
    - gkya 10y ago
      Well, first of all I did not mean to offend the person I responded to. Sorry if that came off that way. About your comment, well, frankly, if you're sharing sensitive things like bank accounts and intimate recordings, prudence is key. One has to make sure what they give access to. And I said that the suffering side in this kind of situations should be assertive about the fact that they are innocent. IDK what is wrong about that.
    - matz1 10y ago
      How is this different, there are always this risk when one share back account.
      - emodendroket 10y ago
        That it's not so different is my point.
- DannyBee 10y ago
  "I expected my colleagues to respect the things I do in private and realize I'm just human." So basically, you bet that people would overcome millions of years of human psychology? While I agree with you it would be nice if that happened (really nice!), i wouldn't expect that to happen for a long long time.
  - emodendroket 10y ago
    Hell, why even bother criminalizing murder or theft when murder and theft have happened in every culture in the history of time? It's only human nature, after all.
    - matz1 10y ago
      Exactly because human nature is hard to change, you have to effectively force it by criminalizing it and not everything can be criminalized.
- J0-nas 10y ago
  You expect people to behave a certain way when you know they won't. Then you let them get to you because you don't stand to whatever you did. You expected them to compliment you. It means you are proud of what you did. But if you really are proud of what you did you wouldn't care about their opinion in the first place. So either you are somewhat ashamed of what you did and regret that it became public or wanted to brag with it but are now angry that you colleges made fun of you instead.

What did you expect?

by J0-nas 10y ago

What did you expect?

I expected my colleagues to respect the things I do in private and realize I'm just human. And at the very least, if they were going to publicly respond, I'd have expected them to compliment me instead.

song 10y ago
This sucks, I can't imagine what goes through the mind of people making fun of someone for something like this that is clearly private. Hope you found a better job and colleagues after that.
gkya 10y ago
> things I do in private When you let it be recorded and the recording be possessed by someone else, it's practically public, as you can't control what'll happen in future and there will always be mean people that'll try to bully you for that sort of thing. I'm sad that it's caused you harm, but I guess in such situations showing confidence might work.
- emodendroket 10y ago
  Would you respond the same way to someone whose spouse emptied out their bank accounts and ran off?
  - gkya 10y ago
    Well, first of all I did not mean to offend the person I responded to. Sorry if that came off that way. About your comment, well, frankly, if you're sharing sensitive things like bank accounts and intimate recordings, prudence is key. One has to make sure what they give access to. And I said that the suffering side in this kind of situations should be assertive about the fact that they are innocent. IDK what is wrong about that.
  - matz1 10y ago
    How is this different, there are always this risk when one share back account.
    - emodendroket 10y ago
      That it's not so different is my point.
DannyBee 10y ago
"I expected my colleagues to respect the things I do in private and realize I'm just human." So basically, you bet that people would overcome millions of years of human psychology? While I agree with you it would be nice if that happened (really nice!), i wouldn't expect that to happen for a long long time.
- emodendroket 10y ago
  Hell, why even bother criminalizing murder or theft when murder and theft have happened in every culture in the history of time? It's only human nature, after all.
  - matz1 10y ago
    Exactly because human nature is hard to change, you have to effectively force it by criminalizing it and not everything can be criminalized.
J0-nas 10y ago
You expect people to behave a certain way when you know they won't. Then you let them get to you because you don't stand to whatever you did. You expected them to compliment you. It means you are proud of what you did. But if you really are proud of what you did you wouldn't care about their opinion in the first place. So either you are somewhat ashamed of what you did and regret that it became public or wanted to brag with it but are now angry that you colleges made fun of you instead.